Tru Melese

Father's name: Melese Mekonen
Year of birth: 1942
Place of birth: Gondana, Qwara
Region in Ethiopia: Qwara
Main occupation in Ethiopia: Housewife and midwife
The language of the interview: Amharic

Tru Melese, nature, agriculture, shepherding, housewife, midwife, soldier, tax collector, traditions and customs, wedding, childbirth, school, studies, love, engagement, slaves, Bariah, death, baby, umbilical cord, Daneo Meheret, celebrations, dances, songs, hunting, food, Italians, Derg, Emperor Haile Selassie, Gondana, Qwara, Gondar, Deba, Sudan, Israel.

Summary of the testimony:

Tru describes her family tree, her village, and the local history. She studied in school in first and second grades, but left due to the teacher’s cruel behavior. As a child, she herded the sheep and cattle. Her father, who was a solider during the war against the Italians, left for Gondar in order to support the family. He worked as a tax collector for the regime of Emperor Haile Selassie. Her parents eventually divorced. Her father used to visit her in the winter months.

Tru was engaged in an arranged match and got married at the age of ten. She describes the customs of the engagement and the wedding: the singing and dancing, the gifts the sides exchanged, and the role of the escorts. After the wedding, Tru lived with her husband’s family. She notes her great love for her father-in-law, who took care of her and brought her up as if she was his daughter. From the first time she laid eyes on her husband, Daneo Meheret, they both understood that they are kindred spirits who will never be parted.

Even though tradition prescribes a three-year waiting period until the new couple live together as husband and wife, Tru gave birth to her firstborn when she was 13. During her years in Ethiopia, she gave birth to a total of ten children. Tru describes the births of her son and daughters. She was completely alone in the room when some of them were born. She relates that she learned to be a midwife from her mother-in-law, who was the district midwife. She describes various complications and solutions she witnessed. She also describes at length the traditions before and after childbirth, such as the mother’s diet.

Her mother-in-law taught her how to run a home and taught her skills such as spinning cotton threads and sewing. Her husband’s family was wealthy, and the heavy housework was done by slaves. Tru explains the tradition of slavery in Ethiopia and the role of the slaves in the running of the household.

Tru describes the mutual assistance of the community in preparing for weddings and other events. She talks about the difference between her son’s wedding and the weddings of her daughters.

During the year, her husband would go on hunting trips and would sometimes be away from home for an entire month. Tru talks about the trips, how she managed without her husband, and about her fears.

Tru and her family travelled to Sudan, where she worked as a midwife. After waiting for eight years, they immigrated to Israel.

Tru Melese